Parenting While Being An Introvert by: Allison Becker


Parenting can be exhausting at times for everyone, but it can be especially draining for introverts. Being an introvert is defined by recharging during alone time, and that’s hard to snag while caring for children.

Constant questions, conversations, and activities leave little room for privacy. And that’s not even taking into consideration talking to other adults like teachers or other parents.

Read on for a few tips on parenting while introverted!

  • Set clear boundaries with your children. Obviously most of the time you have to be present for your kids. But when you can, find the time that you can set out for yourself. Create clear and consistent rules with your children about when to let you alone. Visual signals like a closed door or a “Do Not Disturb” sign are a great start. It may be tough at first, but be consistent in not letting them disturb you! This is also a great way to teach children about independence and what defines an emergency.

  • Use podcasts, audiobooks, or music the whole family enjoys to occupy time. We’re all aware that giving your kid a screen is probably the most effective way to get them to leave you alone, but we also know that’s not something to rely on. However, engaging their ears can be a great way to achieve the same effect!

    This is works especially well for car rides. Choose something that you will also enjoy listening to, or that at least won’t bother you, so you can have self-focused time. This is particularly helpful if you’re going somewhere where you’ll be around other adults. Human interaction requires the right mindset — listening to something engaging with your child can help give you the time to get there.

  • Brainstorm (and utilize) the quickest possible ways you can care for yourself. This will look different for everyone, but it is critical to grab moments of self-encouragement throughout the day. Maybe it’s three deep breaths while you wash your hands or maybe it’s that sip of coffee before your kids come running in the kitchen. Look for the smallest moments that pack the biggest punch. Practice mindfulness when it comes to these strategies, and use them often!

  • Use this as a teaching opportunity. Every kid will grow up to be unique, and they’ll meet a lot of unique people along the way. Sharing the importance of alone time with them in an appropriate way will help them understand some of the differences in people. Explaining how we recharge our batteries teaches children more about the world and about themselves. If we want to raise children that know the importance of taking care of themselves, we must model that behavior — embrace your introversion and remember to take care of you!